* Talk with each other about your relationship.
Have you ever actually asked your partner if they are happy in the relationship — not just assuming they are happy, but actually asking them and talking about it?  Ask what they like and don’t like.  Ask what they would like to see changed.

* Take time out for walks, talks, and dinners out.
You need to take time out to talk.  Walks and dinners are a great time to have a conversation, giving you time to tell your partner your thoughts or concerns.  Communication is the cornerstone of a successful relationship.  The problem is that most of us hide our concerns and avoid talking about them as a couple.  If you are a team, you should solve them together.

* Leave little notes of love.
Leave little notes for your partner saying how much you love and appreciate them.  Leave the notes in places they will definitely be seen, like the bathroom mirror, inside the car, or on a door handle.

* Set aside time to be alone.
You should take time out for intimacy, for sex, or just cuddling while watching a movie.  The time should be scheduled during your week, almost like an appointment.  If it is not given that level of importance, it will be forgotten.

* Flirt and be spontaneous.
After we have been in a relationship a while, we forget what it was like to date.  The flirting goes away, the spontaneity stops, and we get too comfortable with our relationship.  Flirting and spontaneity bring out emotions in us that might not normally occur.  Flirting shows we are wanted, gives us attention, and can show someone we have an element of lust for them.  We all need to be wanted, but being taken for granted is commonplace in a longer relationship.

Spontaneity is elements of mystery, surprise, and suspense.  If you know your partner is spontaneous, you will always be wondering what is up his or her sleeve next.  It is a surprise because even though you may know something is coming, you are still shocked.  It is suspenseful because you can’t wait for that something to come.  You know something is coming, and you want it to arrive.

* Boast about your partner in public.
When you and your partner are out with others, tell a story about something special your partner did for you.  Everyone likes to be recognized, and when it is in front of others they will surely take notice and reciprocate.

* Take day trips or take a class together.
If neither of you gets much vacation time, take a day or a weekend trip.  These mini vacations can be very fun and give you both something to look forward to, instead of just another weekend.

To break up the week, you can participate in an organized activity together, like taking a ballroom dancing class or joining a softball league.  This gives you a chance to interact with other adults beyond your usual circle of friends or coworkers.  What you do is not as important as doing it together and doing it regularly … although it should be something you think you might enjoy.

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